All I Want Is...
"A wise lover values not so much the gift of the lover as the love of the giver." ~Thomas á Kempis
It was time.
The bridal registry.
It's not as easy as it was when I was a kid and made actual wish lists of what I wanted for Christmas so that Santa wouldn't mistakenly buy me a Malibu Barbie instead of the desired Ballerina Barbie.
In my teenage/early adulthood, it was more the subtle hints: 'Boy mom, I sure would love those new earrings for Christmas...what a coincidence, they're on sale right now!'. Subtle as a sledgehammer.
But now...now I was going to actually list what I wanted and have my friends fork over a rather significant amount of bling for it. It made me uneasy. Oh the other hand, you could see why you'd want a registry.
The idea of a registry was to gift the newlyweds with something for their new home together: a toaster, a blender, a new set of chinaware that will never be used. The idea of such a registry, first made popular in 1924 by Chicago founded department store Marshal Fields was so that your friends wouldn't double up on gifts and you end up with 14 toasters and no new chinaware.
The reality is, though, that many couples now live together long before they are married, and no longer need the traditional household gifts. Instead couples now have registries where you can chip in for their honeymoon, or even help them pay off a bit of their home loan. All sound rather brazen and out there, but definitely not uncommon these days.
A general rule of thumb is that you don't ask for monetary gifts. This is extremely tacky and just looks all kinds of wrong. Instead, let your guests know what the money will be going towards, and you're more likely to receive a positive response. People like to know where their money is going, after all.
While I myself am not brave enough to ask for help on my home loan, I have only one registry set up and that's for my honeymoon. I've included a cute little poem about it that will hopefully make my guests laugh and gift me generously.
Even more so, I'm hoping this does not backfire and i end up with 14 toasters <3
Posted by Jacqueline H.