Five tips to calm your inner ogre
By Natalie Tsang
August 10, 2011
It's my party and I'll cry if I want to. The chorus from Leslie Gore's 1960s hit song has become an American catchphrase to describe feeling absolutely miserable when you're supposed to be happy. During your wedding planning process, things will go wrong. Sometimes it's not like you're planning a wedding at all, it's more like an obstacle course and reality show rolled into one. There are obstacles to overcome, things to plan. Tensions can run high, and before you know it, youre yelling at your best friend while gamely flipping through yet another catalogue of wedding dresses.
Soon, its official. You become a Bridezilla."
Whether your actions truly fit those of a bridezilla or not, deep inside your head resides an anxiety filled, panic ridden maniac. Do not let this person win. She is not you. Here are five tips to keep your cool as your wedding approaches.
1. Enjoy your engagement.
While you're planning for your future, don't forget to live in the present. Remember to set aside time for the person you're going to spend the rest of your life with. Yeah, you've got the rest of your lives, but the co-star of your wedding also needs some screen time now. Set aside time for couple-only activities.
2. When the clock strikes twelve, mum is the word.
Hearing about any topic day after day for months is exhausting. Prevent your friends and family members from getting wedding fatigue by not talking about your special day 24/7. When you hang out with others, put aside the planning from time to time. If you must blab, a blog or a journal can be an invaluable tool to jot down ideas or rant and rave. If it's public, your friends and family and fellow netizens can read and comment at their own leisure.
3. Set limits for others.
Time can fly when you're having a good time. Have an agreement that no matter what, your bridesmaids cannot stay over past midnight discussing dresses or making favors. Also, decide how many times you can call your florist, wedding planner and caterer within a twenty-four hour period before seeming obsessive. Write this number down.
As a bride, you have to plan your wedding. As a human being, you deserve to be happy and healthy. Pick three things to stress over and then ask someone else to arrange the rest. This other person can be a professional planner or a willing friend.
5. Do not plan your own wedding shower or bachelorette party.
It's weird and really self-absorbed. With great power comes with great responsibility, so divvy up the power. Dont be so involved in the drivers seat that you forget to look out the window and enjoy the experience of planning and celebrating your wedding.