Expecting Bridesmaids: Preparing for the Unexpected
Just because your best friend has a bun in the oven doesn't mean she can't stand by your side on the happiest of days. Here are some tips to keep your friends standing by your side, and comfortable and safe as well.
1) Talk to your friend early
Some women are gungho to take part in your wedding -- pregnancy or no pregnancy -- and it's important to gauge whether she really wants to participate, feels indebted, or is too polite to say no. Rather than straight out asking her and expecting a yes or no answer, verbalize that you love her and would love for her to participate but also understand if she wasn't feeling up to it.
2) Discuss Adjustments
This should be an ongoing discussion on the specific requirements and needs. For instance, while your other girls may be in three inch heels, your expectant bridesmaid might need a comfy pair of dressy flats or chic sandals to accommodate her swelling feet.
If she's your MOH, you might tentatively discuss whether she'd rather give or share the responsibilities of throwing a rip-roaring bachelorette party to someone else, or plan a more sedate and daytime affair.
3) Have a backup plan
If, say your pregnant bridesmaid, backs out, you should have a plan. A lot of things can happen. She might not feel up to it and you should always allow her to gracefully bow out. It's better to have a bridesmaid who's enthusiastic and energetic rather than one who's feeling under the weather.
If she's your MOH, pick out an MOH-in-waiting or an MOH understudy together.
4) Make special day of plans
Pregnancy has its share of small inconveniences, such as the near constant need to pee in the later stages. Talk to her about how to make her most comfortable without diminishing her participation.
If she's in her third trimester, standing for long periods of time may be exhausting. If she's in her first, she still may have unexpected bouts of nausea. Communication is key!
Wishing you a fantastic and fabulous wedding!
Posted by Natalie T.