[ Facebook ] Male of Honor
I'm going to have to be completely honest about something here. I don't have many girlfriends at all. Besides the girls in the SimplyBridal office, most if not all of my companions are guys. In fact, in any group of friends, I'm the token female.
I'm the one they feel comfortable sharing fart jokes with, shooting Nerf guns at, or watching the NBA with in their underwear while eating 3-day old Cheetos.
Yup. I'm one of them. Not a 'tom-boy' or 'boyish'. After all, I still wear heels and look great in dresses. No, my guy friends call me their 'bra'. You know...like a 'bro', but a bra...because...I wear one, I guess.
Most of my guyfriend's girlfriends start off very suspicious of me, but through time, learn to see me as un-threatening and really, just one of the guys. It's not that I don't like girls, per se. I do. I just don't really enjoy shopping, nor relate to that lust they all feel towards that really pasty-brooding guy from those vampire movies.
I never gave a second thought about this, until very recently, I watched the movie I Love You, Man, the story of a dude who just proposed to his girl, and now has to look for a best man because he has no guy friends. While his antics and some of the lines they came up with had me in tears at the end I thought to myself "holy moly...! That's going to be me!"
Okay, fine, there is that one minor detail that I don't have a boyfriend, let alone a fiance, but knowing that I definitely won't have any bridesmaids? The thought kind of dampened an otherwise fun Valentine's day with my pepperoni pizza and X-box.
Luckily for me, I have a sister, and a female cousin...both of whom I'm not that close to, but would still ask to be bridesmaid. Then came the issue of the MOH. I'm not that close to my co-workers...at least, not close enough to bestow them the duty of MOH anyway. Would I too, have to go on a futile search for a new best friend? And, how would I even go about in doing that? Do I go pick up girls in a club or stand on a street corner with a sandwich board saying "BFF wanted" while ringing a bell?
Also, I didn't think my actual BFF -- Josh -- would be too pleased if I made a new one. It'd be exactly like cheating.
I asked our Facebook brides on their thoughts on male bridesmaids, and was pleasantly surprised to learn that while 10% thought the idea was "too different", 90% of women have no problems with a "brides-man". To break that figure down, 5% thought it was only appropriate if her best friend was gay. 15% agreed it was a good idea but only if this male was very very close to her, such as a brother or a life long friend. The majority of women -- 70% in fact, had already had weddings with men in it, or were about to have a special male in her bridal party.
That put my mind at ease. Sandwich boards aren't really my thing and are very hard to accessorize with. All I have to do is waltz down that aisle with my BFF Joshy.
...And maybe get a boyfriend and engaged first.
But the rest? It's all worked out. Hey, look at me! I'm planning my wedding! I guess I can be a girl's girl after all.
On a side note, check out our bridesmaid dresses!
Posted by Katie L. who loves our Facebook Fans.