Here Comes My Bridesmaids
"Things are never quite as scary when you have a best friend" - Bill Watterson
I finally got around to doing it this week. I chose my bridesmaids.
After 2 months of allowing up to 12 of my girlfriends believe that they were all a part of my wedding, I felt it was time to actually tell them.
I must admit, it was a long process. One the one hand, I'm lucky to have so many close friends, but on the other, how do you tell them that you've decided they don't make the cut? You can't. You might as well tell them you like the other girls better.
With exactly 4 positions to fill (unlike myself, hubby-to-be only has 4 friends, so his role was easy. He chose them all), I decided to use the process of elimination, and came up with a list of requisites for the girls.
1. Must be able to perform under pressure.
This automatically ruled out 5 of my girls, who panic when they see a jacket in two colors and they are only able to purchase one. No, I couldn't have that sort up there with me. God forbid in the event of rain or a ripped hemline, I need someone calm, not someone curled up in a ball of hysterics.
2. Must be able to let loose and have a good time....but not too loose.
Knowing full well that I'd need bridesmaids brave enough to do speeches and possibly break out in a performance also helped the elimination process. After all, as much as I love my 3 high school friends, forcing them to learn a dance routine and perform it in front of a 200+ crowd would send them in cardiac arrest and I definitely couldn't have that. On the other hand, you don't want someone that has the ability to have too much fun and ends up streaking. Old guy. High school prom flash-backs!
Admittedly, I'm a huge organizational freak and I love all things that involve spreadsheets. I will need my girls to be equally organized, especially when it comes to planning my bachelorette night, which will no doubt involve a weekend away at some resort (hint hint).
In the end, I was left with my sister Vivienne who I always knew was going to be my matron of honor, a sorority sister from college, a childhood friend I grew up and an ex-colleague with whom I always remained close.
While I'm still nervous about a lot of aspects of the wedding, knowing I'll have my girls up there with me makes it just that little less scary.
Can't wait to tell them!
Posted by Jacqueline H.