How to Edit Your Vows
This is part two in a three part series on writing your vows. For part here, please click here.
Here's a secret. Sometimes it takes me forever to go from an idea for a blog post to the finished product. I'm not equating my blogs with your wedding vows, but the writing process is tricky. So after a few brainstorming sessions, you should have pages and pages of ideas.
If you typed out your notes, you'll have to print them. First, highlight all the promising ideas. You're looking for words or memories that are deeply meaningful to you as a couple, but are also accessible for the audience. If you met at the Shack, you might want to mention somewhere that it's an Australian themed bar for your guests' benefit. Or else, they'll think that you met in a random, plywood box.
Once you've gotten all your ideas highlighted, retype or rewrite them on a clean sheet of paper. How long do you want your vows to be? Traditional vows are just a few sentences. On average, try to keep it under five minutes or less than two hundred words.
Most vows follow a general format of things one partner promises or pledges to the other. They include serious ones like appreciating and cherishing each other? And more lighthearted ones, like promising to do the dishes without being asked. Many couples are now personalizing their vows and linking many of their promises to key moments in their relationships, habits that their friends and family will chuckle over.
Does your hubby have a habit of burning his tongue because he has to have the right out of the oven cookie? You can promise to blow on them first. You can mix it up by adding similes, metaphors, and symbolism.
This is one of our favorites that we found on Pinterest:
i will kill the spiders. i will share my fries with you when youve finished all yours and are still hungry. i wont ever pop my collar. i will never be rude to your tummy- when i hear it growl and gurgle, i promise to bend down and reply respectfully. i will eat the mushrooms when we order the supreme pizza. i will kiss the papercuts. and the door-slammed finger. and the counter-bumped hip. ill try my hardest not to get annoyed when you whisper questions and comments during movies. i will be the big spoon. i will let you win at wrestling. sometimes. other times i will not.i will send you random txts and leave you silly gifts. not always. not on schedule. just whenever i want to. whenever i think you need one. or seven. i will check your tire pressure. and remind you to take your car in. i will hold your hand. i will love you. i will love you. i will love you.
Posted by Natalie T.